Culture Abuse have announced that the band is splitting up after frontman David Kelling has publically addressed sexual misconduct allegations.
In a statement posted to his personal Instagram account, he says:
“Ten years ago I was 22 and slept with a 17-year-old,” he writes. “I led her on and pressured her and over time left the relationship without checking in on her feelings. Now come to find out it caused pain that she has had to deal with all the time. She did not deserve that in any way. We spoke on the phone today with both of our partners present and she said she accepted my apology, though she didn’t have to.
“But this is not the only instance where someone deserves an apology and this has not been the only time where I have acted without considering others emotions. The guilt I have felt has been overwhelming and I didn’t know how to open up or go back and fix it on my own. Or to tell people I do not want to be put on a pedestal because I have been a fuck up that’s trying to work on myself.
“Three years ago I met my girlfriend and she’s been pivotal in showing me the ways my behaviours are wrong and how to be a better partner and person. I’ve tried to grow as a person and love myself and treat the people in my life with empathy. I’m far from perfect, but I have been trying. And I’ve reflected and grappled with the angry younger person I was. I know this doesn’t fix the past mistakes or excuse me from the work I know that I need to continue to do. I recognise that it is time that I find the help I need and do my best to right my wrongs. I am so sorry to anyone I have hurt. Nothing makes it better but I promise to try and do my part. If anyone wants to reach out please do. I want to be better and I want to be fully accountable.”
“How can I preach about peace, love and equality when my past has caused people pain?”
The remaining members of Culture Abuse wrote in a joint statement of their experience with David.
“We have experienced David‘s erratic behavior before but we always took it as an immense passion for this band and David’s ultimate goals in music. Some people can say that this was our way of allowing David‘s behavior to continue but we looked at it as a support system to help a person change. However with the lack of honesty from David about his roles in abuse against women and its severity, we ultimately led David to not hold himself accountable and for that we are extremely sorry. Because we do believe people can change with a lot of hard work, without self accountability there can be no change. We will no longer open the associate with David because of his actions, however we feel it is important that David seeks therapy to unlearn his past behavior and attitude and ensure other victims and survivors receive the justice they deserve and to most importantly prevent further abuse. This is not just David’s issue it is our issue, it is a men’s misconduct issue.”
The band have also announced that they will remove the word “abuse” from their name stating that their social media “will no longer be used to promote what the band was, we will use this platform to educate and share information and important articles for abusers and victims.”
The band also shared a victim’s statement on their Instagram page with their permission. See all statements in full below.
For those who are facing or who are survivors of sexual abuse, harassment or misconduct, more help and support can be found via the following links below.
A Voice For The Innocent: www.avoicefortheinnocent.org
The Survivors Trust: www.thesurvivorstrust.org
Citizens Advice: www.citizensadvice.org.uk